{"id":19527,"date":"2025-12-11T09:00:16","date_gmt":"2025-12-11T09:00:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog-content.thortful.com\/?p=19527"},"modified":"2025-12-08T09:41:13","modified_gmt":"2025-12-08T09:41:13","slug":"first-christmas-without-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog-content.thortful.com\/first-christmas-without-dad\/","title":{"rendered":"Celebrating first Christmas without dad"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your first Christmas without your dad can feel impossibly heavy. Even the build-up can stir up emotions you didn\u2019t expect. Memories, traditions, and even small things like festive adverts can suddenly hit harder than they ever have. When someone so central to your world is missing, the whole season can look and feel completely different.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether the run up to Christmas feels overwhelming, the day itself feels uncertain, or you need some guidance for what comes after, we\u2019ve pulled together some ideas to help you move through it in whatever way feels right for you. And if someone you love is missing Dad at Christmas, we\u2019ve included simple things you can say and supportive ways to show up for them too.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Preparing for your first Christmas without Dad<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The lead up to Christmas can feel unsettling long before December even begins. Festive songs, shop displays, and annual customs can take on a whole new weight. Some days you may feel steady, and on others even the smallest reminder can stop you in your tracks. What matters is finding what helps you through this period in your own time.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Give yourself permission to take things at your own pace<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t have to dive into Christmas all at once. If the season feels too big, too loud, or too emotional this year, it\u2019s absolutely okay to slow everything down. Choose one thing at a time and let yourself step back when you need to.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Socialise based on what feels manageable<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Holiday events, dinners, work dos, family plans\u2026 the Christmas season can be full of invitations. But grief takes energy, and you\u2019re allowed to say no. You don\u2019t owe anyone a festive version of yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try asking yourself:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I genuinely want to go, or do I feel obliged?<\/span><\/strong><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Will this help me feel connected, or leave me drained?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I need a backup plan in case I feel overwhelmed?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s completely acceptable to leave early, say no from the start, or even change your mind after saying yes. You might decide to attend just one event, or none at all. The people who care about you will understand. And if a moment of joy finds you, you\u2019re allowed to feel it without guilt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Decide what feels right when it comes to Christmas cards<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Christmas cards can bring up complicated emotions. Leaving Dad\u2019s name off. Receiving cards addressed only to you. Wondering whether you should send any at all. But here\u2019s the truth: there is zero expectation to send cards this year.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If it feels painful this year, press pause. You can even ask a friend or relative to spread the word that you\u2019re taking a break from card sending. For anyone who still finds comfort in the ritual of writing a card to dad, our independent creators have designed some beautiful <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/cards\/christmas\/dad\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dad Christmas cards<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you can hold onto, display, or fill with words you still want to share.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"blogpost-card-slider\"><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/classic-christmas-card-for-dad-snow-scene-67ec4edad200360cc6d1450f\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/67ec4edad200360cc6d1450f\/67ec4edad200360cc6d1450f_large.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Scenic dad Christmas card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=70,format=auto,quality=90\/profile\/58cd6299e4b08a851648a721\/58cd6299e4b08a851648a721_picture_medium.jpg?version=2\" alt=\"Louise Tiler\" \/><p>Louise Tiler<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/cute-christmas-card-for-a-special-dad-santa-driving-a-red-bus-68bdc59f3c0f3e21295cbc0b\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/68bdc59f3c0f3e21295cbc0b\/68bdc59f3c0f3e21295cbc0b_large.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Special dad Christmas card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=70,format=auto,quality=90\/profile\/60859264ecfcd50001b4fe78\/60859264ecfcd50001b4fe78_picture_medium.jpg?version=5\" alt=\"Nicola Watson\" \/><p>Nicola Watson<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/classic-christmas-card-for-dad-for-reindeer-66ceee8938b6c12c95d7291c\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/66ceee8938b6c12c95d7291c\/66ceee8938b6c12c95d7291c_large.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Festive dad card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=70,format=auto,quality=90\/profile\/56e94973e4b07e6ae48b213a\/56e94973e4b07e6ae48b213a_picture_medium.jpg?version=3\" alt=\"Laura Darrington Design Ltd.\" \/><p>Laura Darrington Design Ltd.<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/heartfelt-christmas-card-dad-65097806e67b1479bea75997\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/65097806e67b1479bea75997\/65097806e67b1479bea75997_large.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Wonderful dad Christmas card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=70,format=auto,quality=90\/profile\/5ef8f6ee42fde90001ba573c\/5ef8f6ee42fde90001ba573c_picture_medium.jpg?version=2\" alt=\"The Boy and the Bear\" \/><p>The Boy and the Bear<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/just-for-you-dad-at-christmas-traditional-classic-red-christmas-tree-pretty-special-dad-christmas-card-61445496a03faf0001451386\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/61445496a03faf0001451386\/61445496a03faf0001451386_large.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Just for you Dad card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=70,format=auto,quality=90\/profile\/57ac455fe4b0667b474bb770\/57ac455fe4b0667b474bb770_picture_medium.jpg?version=7\" alt=\"Rebecca Prinn\" \/><p>Rebecca Prinn<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/cute-christmas-card-dad-santas-driving-65147405bd53b456db37e7ee\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/65147405bd53b456db37e7ee\/65147405bd53b456db37e7ee_large.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Car dad Christmas card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=70,format=auto,quality=90\/profile\/603cc42982c37000019c07fb\/603cc42982c37000019c07fb_picture_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Geordies Love Gin\" \/><p>Geordies Love Gin<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keep, change, or skip the decorations completely<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This might be a year for lighter touches: a single ornament, a framed picture, a knitted stocking. Maybe a simple, toned-down setup sits better than the usual sparkle. Or you may decide that no decorations at all is what your heart needs most this year.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The day itself<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Christmas Day can feel different in ways you didn\u2019t anticipate. However it unfolds, let it be what it is and trust that your way is the right way for you. Some people lean into the quiet, others surround themselves with family. You might keep yourself busy, or you might step back from the day altogether. Choose the version of the day that feels possible for you and let that be enough.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honour him in a way that feels right<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Honouring your dad doesn\u2019t have to involve anything grand. Lighting a candle, making his favourite dish, watching a film he loved, or sharing a memory with someone who misses him too are all simple ways to feel connected to him.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t have to feel festive<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t need to match the mood of Christmas. If all you can manage is something quiet and low-key, it\u2019s okay to let the season shrink to a size that feels safe for you. Maybe that means switching off for a while, visiting a place that reminds you of him, going for a walk, or ordering a takeaway and keeping things simple. If treating it like an ordinary day brings the most peace, you\u2019re allowed to lean into that.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spend time with people who understand<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whether that\u2019s family, friends, or someone else who\u2019s also missing dad at Christmas, sharing the day with people who get it can make the day feel lighter and less isolating.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choose what traditions you want to keep (or let go of)<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Traditions can hold so much emotion, especially during your first Christmas without your dad. Some will feel soothing, others might feel too raw, and your feelings may change from year to year. You\u2019re free to adapt anything. Tweak a tradition, set it aside, or start something entirely new. What matters is choosing what feels manageable and true to you. Traditions can evolve, just as grief does.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For those you do want to keep, even small rituals can carry a quiet sense of connection. Cooking the festive recipe he taught you, hanging the decoration he always put on the tree, or playing the board game he insisted he would win. These familiar moments can become steady reminders of the love threaded through all the Christmases you shared.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Navigating the quiet after Christmas<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When the decorations come down and the world slips back into normal life, things can feel strangely hollow. For many people, the days after Christmas are actually the hardest, especially when the new year is approaching, and the world feels like it\u2019s moving on without your dad in it. This quieter space can bring up a rush of emotions you didn\u2019t quite have time to feel during the festive build up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Try to give yourself room to decompress. You\u2019ve just carried a lot emotionally, mentally, and socially, so let yourself rest. Slow mornings, early nights, long showers, or simply doing nothing at all can give your mind a moment to catch up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can also help to reflect on the moments that steadied you this year, as well as the ones that felt overwhelming.<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perhaps a certain song, routine or quiet moment caught you off guard and felt harder to face. But there may also have been tiny sparks of warmth, a memory, a gesture, or a moment that made you pause. These experiences all matter and writing them down can help you understand what you need moving forward and where the love you carry for him still shows up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if you feel able, lean on the people around you. Siblings, friends, or support organisations can make the quiet a little less overwhelming. If you\u2019re not ready to talk yet, take your time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Supporting someone spending their first Christmas without Dad<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If someone you care about is facing their first Christmas without Dad, finding the right words can feel intimidating. You don\u2019t need perfect phrasing. Just honesty, kindness, and presence. Here are some messages that might help:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thinking of you this Christmas. Here if you need me.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sending love your way today.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Holding you and your dad in my thoughts this Christmas.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know this Christmas might feel incredibly hard. Sending gentle strength your way.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wishing you moments of peace and comfort today. If you need company, a chat or quiet support, I\u2019m here.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your dad\u2019s love will always be a part of you. Thinking of you and your family this Christmas.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s okay to feel whatever you\u2019re feeling today. You\u2019re not alone, and I\u2019m right here if you need anything.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want company, a distraction, or a quiet cuppa, I\u2019m around.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t have to be festive for anyone. I\u2019m here for whatever feels right.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel like reminiscing about your dad this Christmas, I\u2019d be honoured to hear about him.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019d like to send one of these messages in a card, we\u2019ve got a lovely range of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/cards\/sympathy\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sympathy cards<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that might help you share the support you\u2019re trying to put into words:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><div class=\"blogpost-card-slider\"><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/6236e6d596ed040001b76fd2\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/6236e6d596ed040001b76fd2\/6236e6d596ed040001b76fd2_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Robins Are Near Sympathy card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/60d56ed72e3707000134c8c5\/60d56ed72e3707000134c8c5_picture_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Annie Moon\" \/><p>Annie Moon<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/60f477f0bbd29a00019865bf\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/60f477f0bbd29a00019865bf\/60f477f0bbd29a00019865bf_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Sympathy Card Loss of Her card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/60b249c52227680001dd83a0\/60b249c52227680001dd83a0_picture_medium.jpg?version=2\" alt=\"Fox Card Co\" \/><p>Fox Card Co<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/5b33efa465ecd26e76db64b9\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/5b33efa465ecd26e76db64b9\/5b33efa465ecd26e76db64b9_medium.jpg?version=6\" alt=\"No Words Sympathy Card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/58cd6299e4b08a851648a721\/58cd6299e4b08a851648a721_picture_medium.jpg?version=2\" alt=\"Louise Tiler\" \/><p>Louise Tiler<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/62e153c3bf7d680001f2551a\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/62e153c3bf7d680001f2551a\/62e153c3bf7d680001f2551a_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Sending Love Sympathy Card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/6007ee11fa1fff0001e71021\/6007ee11fa1fff0001e71021_picture_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Sundiva Designs\" \/><p>Sundiva Designs<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/60f47777821c4e00010fe16c\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/60f47777821c4e00010fe16c\/60f47777821c4e00010fe16c_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Sympathy Card Loss of Him card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/60b249c52227680001dd83a0\/60b249c52227680001dd83a0_picture_medium.jpg?version=2\" alt=\"Fox Card Co\" \/><p>Fox Card Co<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/58c9a63be4b01ca60fbe1b0c\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/58c9a63be4b01ca60fbe1b0c\/58c9a63be4b01ca60fbe1b0c_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Those We Love Sympathy Card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/58c947ece4b078338ac011f2\/58c947ece4b078338ac011f2_picture_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Duckduckle Design\" \/><p>Duckduckle Design<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/60478371be7a140001cab6a4\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/60478371be7a140001cab6a4\/60478371be7a140001cab6a4_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Heartfelt Sympathy Loss Card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/5e43fb29b9e39e000147dcb2\/5e43fb29b9e39e000147dcb2_picture_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Cloud Cuckoo Design\" \/><p>Cloud Cuckoo Design<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/64d606953c912f6c918a4d57\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/64d606953c912f6c918a4d57\/64d606953c912f6c918a4d57_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Thinking Of You &#8211; Floral Card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/613928ffdc306f0001c75982\/613928ffdc306f0001c75982_picture_medium.jpg?version=14\" alt=\"Kalm Lettering\" \/><p>Kalm Lettering<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><div class=\"card-slide\"><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/card\/6114e29c3c0b9d0001a0599f\"><img class=\"card-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/cdn-cgi\/image\/width=600,format=auto,quality=90\/card\/6114e29c3c0b9d0001a0599f\/6114e29c3c0b9d0001a0599f_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"Sympathy and Loss Thinking of You Card card\" \/><div class=\"card-creator\"><img class=\"creator-image\" src=\"https:\/\/images.thortful.com\/profile\/5f98567298a3310001502c32\/5f98567298a3310001502c32_picture_medium.jpg?version=1\" alt=\"The Girl Next Draw\" \/><p>The Girl Next Draw<\/p><\/div><\/a><\/div><\/div><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if the words still aren\u2019t coming easily, our <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/blog\/what-to-write-in-a-sympathy-card\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what to write in a sympathy card<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> guide offers a few starting points to make things a little easier.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Support doesn\u2019t end with a message, though. Sometimes it\u2019s the small, steady gestures that help the most, such as:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Checking in gently, without expectations<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Offering practical support (shopping, cooking, wrapping, company)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being patient if plans change<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Respecting their boundaries if they need space<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your first Christmas without dad may be painful, messy, bittersweet, or a mix of everything at once. However it unfolds, there is no right or wrong way to move through it. These ideas are simply here to offer a bit of support, and you can take whatever feels useful and leave the rest.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If expressing your feelings in writing brings you comfort, you might also find our articles on <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/blog\/happy-heavenly-birthday-wishes\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">happy heavenly birthday wishes<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/blog\/what-to-write-in-a-grief-anniversary-card\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">death anniversary messages<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> helpful on other emotional days throughout the year. And because Christmas is rarely the only occasion that changes after losing a parent, we\u2019ve also put together support for spending <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.thortful.com\/blog\/fathers-day-without-dad\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Father\u2019s Day without dad<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your first Christmas without your dad can feel impossibly heavy. Even the build-up can stir up emotions you didn\u2019t expect. Memories, traditions, and even small things like festive adverts can suddenly hit harder than they ever have. 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